WHY ME?

“WHY me of all the people”, the question flashes in my our minds whenever we feel that we are at the receiving end of the unfair treatment meted out by the world. The intensity of the question and the responses to the same may vary with respect to our age.
The younger we are, we tend to react even overreact, but as we think we grow older, we respond rather than react. The reason being that we begin to understand, that even though apparently we may not be at fault, bad things can still happen to any of us.
From the moment one goes in the “Why me” mode, he opens doors to misery, compounding the already complex problem. The human mind is a fantastic library which has ready references for each of our negative and positive thoughts. It tends to give us supporting information for our thoughts process. Mind you that it does not decide the veracity of thought process. The best way to overcome such a state is regroup, reassess and the most importantly to start afresh. Those who do not do so, become confused and more likely de-motivated. As a result they try to find a person they feel is better equipped to provide solutions. Again whether the person is really worthwhile is a matter of chance. Very rarely what he tells differs from what our parents have already told us.
In a moment of weakness, one approaches some one who tells him that the present bad phase is due to the cosmic and star signs disturbances in his horoscope. The next stage is of self pity which to my mind is the lowest stage of human existence, and very few overcome this. Such persons forget the logic of numbers and the earlier instances where they were slightly lucky.
“Why bad things happen to good people?” a question that has never been properly answered. I say properly because many have tried to do so drawing richly from varies religious texts. When we verify on a logical scale the answers seem inadequate. One of the very popular explanations is to tell a person that all his present suffering is a result of the bad deeds (Dushkritiyas) done by him in his earlier birth. If you want to check out the inadequacy, try telling this to a mother who has delivered a stillborn or to a father who is a victim of a dowry death of his daughter. All your wisdom filled words would be rendered useless. When words fail, a simple touch never fails.
The other great healer is the time. How someone, somehow manages to overcome and get back to routine, regain the balance is a matter of concern to all of us. May be the best way is to tell the person: “The sky is at its darkest just before the sunrise. All it takes a ray of light and hope to dispel the darkness. May be the God is still planning the best deal for you, so cheer up, my friend and smile!” :)